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The chapter on arousal non-concordance genuinely rewired how I think about my own body, and the "dual control model" explanation finally made sense of stuff I'd been confused about for years. It reads like a smart friend talking you through the research rather than a textbook.

I picked this up thinking it'd be a dry academic read, but the way it breaks down arousal and desire using real research made me see my own patterns so much more clearly. The chapters on context and stress were the ones I kept going back to. It genuinely changed how I talk to my partner about what I

This book's blend of brain science and real talk about vulva owners' sexuality is genuinely eye-opening. Only took off a star because the early chapters felt a bit too academic before getting to the practical advice.